Nikk's Blog of doom!!!

I made a decision and a choice and im sticking to it. You in some shape or fashion have dominated my entire adult life. I am done. There are other options out there. Why am I waiting for soneone who has never and will never truly choose me agian. That moment was over a decade ago. Our moments have been done for over twenty five fucking years. I regret nothing and our time together was a brilliant moment that gave us a glorious son, but hes grown. He's a man now.  I need to choose the next step. I need to move on with my life instead of having the albatross of my past constantly chasing me for false future framing, promises that never come true, and being used when the fractured fucking fallacy of your reality comes crashing in. I have survived nightmares that would have destroyed another man, hulk strongest there is. Sadly one of those nightmares I have had to endure is with you, and I will always be here for you as a result. But I need my own life. And my own choices back. Its tim...

  There was no blog yesterday for a reason. I was very aware of the day it was. No question. But 26 years has absolutely no meaning to you why the fuck should it have any to me? Our moments are just the same old bullshit pawns in our never ending game. Theres a good chance I stop playing soon. I'm fairly certain I know the cost and that it will count as a betrayal but at this point I need to do for me not wait for something to happen. To have a tiny silver of a door open.... Don't you know me? Don't you understand me? I'm the one who kicks fucking doors open. Fifty years old. I'm done waiting. I'll go on as I always have. Doing my own thing. Doing what I want with my own choices. I know where I stand and why I walked away the last time. Pretty sure this time I'm doing it for me. And only me.

You're life is not mine. I have my own. We may share precious blood but you pushed me away long ago. I am not beholden to be keeping a hand in any longer than I choose and I am becoming disinterested in the constant battle to have the scraps at your dinner table. I have walked away before to protect you. I will walk away and let you think I'm the fucking villian as usual. My son knows better. I have very much tried to show him that this past year. If I need to protect your, mine and his mental health and be away from the choas of your family I will walk away. I have nothing and in that is the ultimate freedom. I can walk away. Nothing ties me here except you and Him. But I am not you, the constant battle of your life is not mine. It took me a long time to make peace with the man I and the man I am not. One of us is at peace and one of us is at misery. Amazing how karma changes things. Welcome to my latter half of the past 2 decades. You still blame me for pulling you down to pr...

  Im not begging anyone to be in my life, freinds or family. I'll just keep going on and being me and moving. thats where I am in this life. I'm in the middle part of my own choose your own adventure book. This is the lane I have chosen ill stay in it. All I am is someone who survived despite the choas and toxicity.  I was a better person then, but im a harder person now. I can weather you and protect my family regardless of where I stand. I ain't no twenty year old kid anymore  and there still is a blood fued. I'm sick of being a good person and trying to do the right thing. You and I both know that is far from my natural state and it is not the way of things. Im better when im something to fear. I play the villian well. I play the enemy even better. Why was it always better when we were at a fucking crossroads instead of all this nonsense and a little bit of sunshine and hope. But I am not your enemy, look within yourself, look in your soul. You know who really is. It...

I am a relic from a world that has moved on without me. As each day draws closer to fifty I feel it. I have nothing. An endless legacy of stories and things I've done. But nothing of true value or substance. Save one. My son. At the end if the day, if that's all I was.. if thats all I am. It was worth it.  I dont see as many days ahead as I saw behind and that indicates a lot for me. Im not sure who I want to draw into my orbit anymore. I just want those that are there to stay in it. Ive lost enough people in my life.  I'm already at peace with where I end up. At least there will be answers.  I don't care if I'm liked. I enjoy being hated, intimidating and feared. At least them when i deal with people's interactions they are honest. Id rather be a dark demon than an angel any day.

Its time for me to remeber who I am. I am not someone to be fucking loved, I am someone to be feared. I have tried for far to fucking long to try to be the good person everyone has always told me that I'm not.... so why not embrace all the negative qualities? I might have a better life if I was selfish and walked all over people with no regard for their emotions. Girls dig the assholes that treat them like shit anyways. Why try to be the hero, everyone already thinks I'm DOCTOR FUCKING DOOM anyways.  I can't give you any quarter because backing down is not in either of our nature's, and being at war and the enemy of each other is the natural state. That way you dont have to deal with pain. Its understood. Its why historically I have allowed you to paint my back as your favorite fucking target. I can handle it. Hulk strongest there is. Every knife you've ever had has already been slipped between my ribs. Theres not much vertebrae left. I am angry. That's all i ...

  Happy Birthday.  I love you and I will always be here for you. No more fighting today. I just want you to have a happy day and enjoy your day. Ill be here when needed.  But I am not needed today. Take a break from everyone in your life and let the voices from all of us go silent. Just enjoy your day. I'll be here eventually to pick up the pieces but my angry opinion is not needed on your day. I want you to just have a happy one without me.  Just enjoy your day and be happy. Thats all I've ever wanted for you. Happy Birthday.

I don't make life changes or choices rashly, not anymore. But there has to be an end to misery sometime, maybe we made a long term somewhere. Maybe we need to correct that. I'm just sick of you being sad. There is too much in your and his life that I have been sheltered from, but there are things that wouldn't have happened on my watch as well. That was denied me. I'm starting to understand some of the deeper reasons why. I don't have the answers. But I am starting to understand some of the fucking questions and why external factors that created our end. The issue was never me. It still isn't me. I'm just wandering thru life trying to do the right thing. For me that includes my little family.  I don't know where we stand. There are illusions that don't make sense. All I know is I'm trying to do the right thing. Even if it leads to failure, im prepared for that. Second chances don't come around all that often. I suggest you take ...

  When other names that should be long buried keep creeping into our current rather than being part of our history its time to move on. These things should be history. We need to move on. We have been stuck in the same places for far far too fucking long. It has been a long time since I have gone from crisis to crisis. My life is at peace because I stopped chasing things. There is a reason for that. Our lives are complicated. We are complicated, but I never had any concerns that external forces would attempt to destroy us. I wish I had seen all that coming. None of it has ever made any sense. Once upon a time we were pure. You and me agianst the world. Now it kind of has to be, you and me and him agianst the world.  I'm sick of fighting. I just want the three of us to have some sort of peace. Together or not. Minus my loved ones I am sick of a city and region that I am only a constant visitor in. Why the hell my name, and its not even my name is still spoken when I left the ci...

I wonder sometimes if you chose me because you knew, deep inside, that i was the strongest one out there and I could endure the fucking storm that both of our lives... look at what the chaos that is us created. Hes perfect.  I will always be the protector when I need to be. Hulk strongest there is. Hulk strongest avenger. I know where I stand in the world and this universe. But I dont fear anyone and anything. I never have... the onky nightmares in my life anymore are when I close my eyes.. I'm at peace, but I still have that side when its needed. He can come out to play without a question when I want him too. Hes hidden deep but my demon only sleeps. And me and my demon get along buietifully. We have an arrangement. But you don't want me to let him out to feed.  There is a darkness that my strength cones from, I'm very aware of that. Ive lived with that since before I can remeber. The fucking thing he should not and should never have had to. That's on me. I wasnt th...

I am trying to be patient. I owe her that. There is only so much more time in our lives and she needs to heal to be in the place I am in or my family doesnt heal completely. I faced part of the problem and part of it is within myself. But I know I need to be patient and wait because if we rush into things it will onky do more damage than good. There is a lot to think about and figure out. Not all of it on my side. Some hard changes and decisions need to come. This is no longer a pipe dream. I just need to wait a moment. All I know is no matter the outcome, I'm good with being civil and having them in my life. Thzts the best feeling ever. If it leads to more sure, if its a new status quo. Im good with that too. He's in my life. Thats what matters most.

  I was born of fire. I started in hell in terms of my upbringing. You think you know battle? My whole life has been war. Why do you think I make such an good soldier. I am a warrior.   The problem is now I am a warrior at peace when I need to remind myself thats not always what's needed and buried anger might not be the way to function.  There are reasons to act that way. But there are moments that side needs to shine thru more. Even if it just to legitimize the threat. I don't live in the in-between. I face all of my responsibilities daily. My life has never been easy but I have always dealt with them, ready to face battle.   I want to be gentle, I want to be at peace, but I know at my core the demon is underneath. As long as he only comes out as a protective entity for those I love, me and him have an arrangement. But I dont live in dreams, I live in this world. And for all of us this world is a fucking nightmare. I've earned my place at her table. Ove...

Victory or failure. This is where it ends for me. Either i get my family back or I walk away with my hand still in. These all options im prepared to accept at the end of this moment. If the door is open, I will honor her memory, I will honor them, the way I always should have. She's not wrong, in every moment I should have fought harder. I'm fighting now. And I am never giving up. I'm not a good person, but im trying to be and I know im antisocial and I don't play well with others. I know exactly how bad company i can be when im sitting at a bar with someone that wouldn't eat at my table. I tried to forgive I truly did. The best I can offer is to be fucking civil and help. I owe her that. She was good to me.   But respect goes a long way and I know when its not there. And I dont even care if you love me, hate me, or tolerate me, you will fucking respect me. When you don't, you dont exist. And you dont respect the ones I care the most about including most innoc...

I hate that you hurt and all I can do to help you with that pain is just be here at your side when its wanted. I cant fix you easily but im trying. I am here. I will always be here. Thats not ever in question. That was proven today. Moment's notice. I'm sad,  I was there tonight. But you needed me to be. So did he. Wherever we go from here. Yoire aware of where i stand. You hurt, I'm where I said id be, right beside you. Always. I wish I could take all your pain away and absorb it into myself, and heal you. I'm trying.

We live in moments. I'm good with that, thats always been our pattern and our history. It may change and end up going back to a 2 decade old status quo, it may not.  We were diffeent people then, more innocent. Either way im happy with just having the little bit of daylight and the healing that comes along with it.  I know how i feel and that it never goes away. Its registering. We don't need to be together to be a family, but it feels a lot nicer when we are. And thats a forthcoming decision sooner than later. Doing something new that was inherently familar meant a lot. All that matters is that the two of you are safe in my arms and I can be the big goon that keeps the world away if needed. It is the way it should be.  We are healing. Whatever that means. My family is still healing. I will always be here. That part i know exactly where I stand. I will always be here with them, even aginast the world when and if needed. I should have shown that more a long time ago.

Wanting me to stay but telling me to push away all my freinds. That will fucking happen. over your petty jealousy.these are the people that kept me alive when my whole world fell apart. I may love you But this particular condition is a bridge too far. I will always choose those that were loyal to me.   You fucked off for your own personal reasons and left me in the wilderness for two fucking decades. Just because outside reasons had me fucking forgive you, doesnt mean I have forgotten the scar you placed upon all our lives.. You dont deserve the right to choose my freinds I get to care for... and I would never sacrifice them just to be with you. I feel things deeply, but this time all I feel is the darkest taint of the usual betrayal. You dont get to dictate terms, neither of us won. Both of us lost the war. This is simply the aftermath, its barely even detente. We just stumble on to oblivion.  I'm done fighting your battles and being miserable myself because of it. I cant si...

You think I want to escape from this? There is no escape from this! At the end of the day i know exactly where I stand, and i will always be here. But the moment is slowly ticking away to where it will be anything more than old emotions and affection. I know my net worth and who the fuck I am, there will be a change when the clock ticks fifty. I will always be there and care cuz of responsibilities. You will always be my family, the only one I will ever have. Thats a fact. But I cannot sit there and play these games constantly over the sands of time and all these years. You know what the fuck I want, all I have ever wanted, but if can't have it I will move on. Endgame as always. Everything or nothing. The rules are well defined. Nothing has ever changed. Its understood. The differnce is this time ive decided that there is a line in the sand and a fucking moment that everything will fucking end. Find yourself right with your illusions and jealousy or lose that part of me forever....

Our lives are in moments and memories, thats all thats left to us. Choices were made moments were lost. I want whatever of them remains, every damn one of them shouldn't be a battle based on your choices in life. You pushed me away 20 plus years ago. Theres no reason for me to have any guilt all I have ever tried is regain a few of those fucking moments that were lost to us. All I have ever tried to do is be there for you. Not everything in fucking life needs to be an uphill battle. I am at peace in my life except for the turmoil that is yours. I try to be your peace but you made me the enemy. You made me a weapon to blame. So to preserve your fucking peace that you have very little of. Ill allow you to make me the bad guy. Id rather be the bad guy and the fucking villian. At least our backstory is fucking interesting and people fear and respect me. How the fuck you expect me to process shit that your own decisions have caused while I need to constantly be strong for you, is beyo...

I know who I am. I know who i use my dark side to truly protect. I've made peace with the fact im never going to be an angel, I know im damned. But that doesnt mean I can do some good things while i'm here and protect those that I love. Without question. That will never change. I am here, I will always be here.

I dont know the next step. I don't claim to. I just know I'm working to rebuild a relationship that has been fractured for many years. That includes both of you. I am here. I will always be here, I have always been here that will never change  This weekend was epic and it felt right. I don't know what will happen but i do know that I am at peace with being civil and polite with your mom. It was nice to have a little adventure as a family. It felt right. It what was missing in our lives. Thank you. 

I've never gave a rats ass about being the bad guy. But I have cared about being a fairweather freind and how I reflect on being a role model to my son. I will walk away from any bad actors or bad relationships that endanger the relationship I am slowly attempting to rebuild.  I know I can be a prick. But when you hurt someone I care about, I do not trust you that you may affect those I care about. I burn bridges with gasoline while I'm standing upon them.  It wont be the first multiple decade freindship ive demolished, it won't be the last. Im starting to reevaluate a lot of drinking buddies agian to see who is actually something and who I just party with. If I'm obviously moving in a direction thats going to have me ghosting someone whose been around for a minute, so be it. It wont even be the first one this year. I dont look back. And I dont care, if I exclude you from my life, thats an ending that's where its done.  I am making choices for my future and its pret...

  You are loved. So is he. Tonight was fun. It felt like I was Home agian. You are the only home I have left. She was remembered. She was loved too. I cant think of a better way to honor her than to have our little family together for a moment. Thats all we need. Healing will come. 

It will never be this easy or this simple. I am a fool to belive that it ever could be. I am simply the constant and the albatross we all must carry remains. I revel in being the shadow threat because I know what there is to protect and those things and people that should be forgot, but there is someone of value that shall never be forgot. I need to honor that. I need to honor a promise to her. I need to stand atop this hill and pretend like all is status quo, forever waiting for a moment that may never come. I can fucking deal with the end that never comes, because its mot my end and as long as the two of us exist in this never ending downward spiral, it will not end. It fucking sucks that I have to be the silent threat that brings the two people in this world comfort. I have always know that i am the weapon and rock fucking wall when and if I am needed. A Silent Partner, sadly I feel like one day all that will be left is for me to be the avenger, on that day my soul will truly die a...

I choose to be happy, I choose to have whoever is in my life sharing my adventures. Hopefully that part continues and I can share the people i care about most in this life, family and freinds all in further adventures together. I'm trying. Thats all I can do. I play by my own rules and I don't answer to anyone but myself. I'm loved and respected for the same reasons I am feared. I am ok with that. I simply get to Be. And enjoy myself. I'm also ok with that. If my life stays status quo im good with that, if things change im also good with that. If thats where my life leads, I am finally.ok with that.  But I will always hope for more and what's missing to also be there.

A hero will sacrifice the person they love to save the world, but a villain will sacrifice the world to save the person they love. I am sick of living other people's lives for them while I just sit here and watch my own and the things I prioritize pass me.bye because of peomises and doing the right thing. I've always done the right thing for someone else. Ive always tried to be the fine and upstanding perfect gentleman that I was never raised to be. When does it become too much? When do I realize that life has passed me by because of other people's expectations of what should abd shouldn't be.  Its infected another generation, and I have to wonder do I allow myself to take the fucking hit or have my son affected. My decisions are mine, I sleep just fine at night. I have no regrets in my life. I'm not sure that many in this life, and particularly on my life can say the same.. if you can, im not in a glass house, im in a fragile tower of ruins, but here cast the first...

 Yesterday, everything changed. Its a new chapter. 15 years to get this far. Sometimes its worth it. All I know is unconditional love is aways worth it.

  I'm done with fucking fake freinds and convention drama. More than willing to.walk away when I feel like im being used or being stabbed in the back by people who have been on my radar for a decade but have never contributed anything of substance to my life. Esp. The ones that have never contributed anything in iver and decade and are connected to a memory of a former freind id rather fucking forget. It was a cool moment but at this fucking point. If you are not with me you are agianst me and everyone right now feels like they are agianst me in the scene. Thats fine. I'm used to being hated. I dont give a damn. You don't affect me or my personal life. I said id stop when it stopped being fun. Some things have a shelf life. Every thing has its limits. I just need mine to evolve. I think it has naturally. But it may be time for Dumbledore to be done very soon. And when it completely stops being fun otherwise it'll completely be done. Never had any issues walking away, ...

  At this point i am choosing the devil I know and it being complicated over people that clearly only need me when they need or want something. When I look over the ruins if my life there is only one constant. And while we are damaged and I shoukd have walked away completely shes never really taken advantage of me or asked me for anything up to and including child support, so maybe I really need to consider what happens next. My life doesnt reach that far to her world, but maybe soon I can let her into my world some more.  Not sure tje next step but I'm definitely starting to consider that some of these temporary people in my life just aren't going to be there while she is. There is a distinction there. One thats always been. Shes chosen to be connected to me for the rest of our lives. Thats big. This last year I've lost enough supposed ride or die freinds I'm starting to actually consider who will be there at the end. She's always a consideration. But I'm done...

I live my life. Free of anyone elses decisions. I have my own set of morals and a code and I will always fucking try. But there are days I just need to take a step back and do somethings for me. Right now the answer to that is concerts and having fun.  There will be some answers given this year or there will be some serious fucking changes in my life. I'm sick of just feeling lije I'm performing in my life and just being an accessory to some people who continue to let me fucking down. Survival just isn't enough anymore. And glass houses do have stones. I have the first rock, if needed. I'm done allowing people to pick and choose there place in my life.  Ive been searching for peace when maybe i should have been seeking mayhem. Fifty years almost and im either depressed or angry all the time. I dont have the energy for either. I want to be happy,I want to have good things and good experiences. I don't want to be constantly punching my hand agianst a wall waiting fo...

When every day is just a knife fight for fucking survival and nothing ever changes, what the fuck am I doing here? Twenty years in the same fucking motion. Nothing ever changes. It's just a motherfucking holding pattern. There has to be more to this life than survival. There has to be more to my life than the occasional escape and phone call reminder of the man I once was. I walk away to protect you from me, I don't play your controlling mindgames for a reason. I control the narrative, love me, hate me, loathe me, you will do at least two things, you will fucking respect me, and you will not forget me, even when it would be easier if I was forgotten.  I damage people lives, thats why no one ever stays. As hard as I fucking try I am ultimately aware of how fucking disposable I am, to my girl, to my child, to my freinds ive known since before high school... how many of them are left? Its just a march to be truly alone. Whats fucking point. Fifty years old and I will sit down alon...

I don't do fucking cryptic and I dont play fucking high-school childish games with the person I life i love the most save my son, I will walk away. I have before. Without a word and without looking back. You betrayed me. I never fucking betrayed you. I even came back after I had no reason to just to have you betray me a second fucking time. I'm still trying to be a good husband and a father even now. Both of these fucking things you have denied me. Why bother. Hes of legal age and there were moments where you could have been there and you fucking weren't. Why shoukd I care now. I don't. Only time i put effort into anything in my life and you treat it like an afterthought. I thought I was happy and then you come into it and unbalance things. Including me. I don't know if it need you as an element of my fucking life. I for sure dont need you in orbit playing mind games. Verbal sparring and emotional mindgames need to end some time. You are important and you are in my ...

Life is too short to be constantly fucking pissed off like this. Especially over things that have no substance and do not fucking matter. I have real things that i need to address and maybe I should walk away from some of these distractions. I was always better when i was focused on the important things rather than the mindless distractions. When people drag me down i simply stop associating with them, there is only one person that gets that exemption and i would gladly follow her into hell. However, even there the rules are very rigid. I dont fold for anyone. I never have. I'll stand my ground. What I wont stand for is not being respected.  I'm sick of being angry about things I cannot control. Ending this is something I can control. So at this point walking away isn't enough. This time I am going to do something drastic and put the exclamation point on it. I have enough drama in my life i don't need something someone I care about having it ruined by useles...

  I live every day with the fear of another loved one dying in my arms and/or my door being smashed in and my life being destroyed agian. If i decide to move on to protect the little bit of mental health and peace i have left. You are all gone. Forgotten. Thats where I am agian. It might be time to go fucking dark. I'm already nuts and institutional. Whats the world minus one more crazy conservative? I don't need to be here for anyone except my own inner circle and even those people, they drop like flies. The difference is before there was forgiveness. Now there's an absolute finalty. If you remove you from my chess board you are fucking gone. It's always only about the little king and the black queen anyways. And even the black queen is in a consideration to be forgotten herself agian. I don't have anyone thats always gonna be there at the end except for my own worst enemy. So I am cold or ablivent to losing someone in my life? Yeah I cut the love of my life out o...

  The list of lives I've broken reach from here to hell. I am absolutely done with people who want advice or help based on my experiences and dont take into the fact the emotional toll of asking the questions they present. Yes I worked in the field but they have been my enemy since I was a fucking kid. Im gonna be frank and fucking honest when dealing with the people that destroyed my life. Yes the protocol to protect everyone so no one is accountable is fucking systemic in the system, and keep in mind it is a system. I lost ny child to it despite keeping him out of the system and trusting his mother to take care of him. I do not need to be fucking triggered with questions without understanding that situation. I gave advice and I feel like I am being demonized for it. Sorry my opinion is tainted by the anger and hate i'm very much trying to distance myself from. But there are reasons I distance myself and let them fade away. Its not always about protecting myself. Ive thought f...

I am just Done with some people in my fucking life. I have my own issues and problems and responsibilities and im sick of being an emotional fucking lap dog for people that are only truly on the outskirts of my fucking life. If I have built a wall between us take that as a fucking hint that I want space. I will forgot your fucking name or that you even exist. I have to chose me no one else will and those that mattered most forgot I existed unless they needed sonething.  I am always better off alone. I know who watches the casket burn. The people who will be there at the end are already counted. I only need onr hand. Everyone else, let me burn out, ill only fade away. I'm done being angry for angers sake but im real sick of someone dragging me into their drama and them complaining I dont care enough or pay attenion to them. I don't do anyone else's drama I have enough of my own. Also, I DONT CARE. I never have and I never will. Its easier that way. Blame me and l...

Nothing fucking changes. We go from crisis to crisis. All I know is that someone who isn't kin to me has no reason to be treating his little sister and nephew the way he does. I am going to marry that girl finally. I dont know when I dont know how but there is no reason this constant fuckin lack of respect and this cycle of abuse and enabling needs to continue. You've never respected her. And i do. She and that little boy are my world. We are just complicated. Im trying to uncomplicate it. There was a reason family engagements were kept at arms length because I saw 20 years ago you didnt respect her, I know that you never fucking respected me. I dont care if you respect me, I know you fear me thats enough. All I want her to have is the peace I'm currently seeking. If i Need to be Mr. Mayhem to achieve that i have no issues doing so. No fucks given. I am scary. I am a mentally ill loner that society has rejected. I stand apart and I am not fucking afraid of anyone. Includin...

Things are starting to make a little more sense now. I am looking for peace but I also know what the last stop at the station leads to. I have no doubt of that. And I have no regrets about constantly extending the olive branch. It will always happen.  I see my future in your eyes. I always have. I still do. And he stands beside  you now. We need to think about somewhere else. Im not sure long term what the solution is. I know that every root we have is poisoned or ruins. I want you safe and free from drama. I always have. I will always be here. I will always be waiting. I want you to make a decision by the time im 50 but we have time still. I love you. Always. I know where I stand in our last moments already. I just want the moments in between. Those are the important ones.  We have given so many up. There are precious few we could have back. My life doesnt lead to you. You have to come to mind. We need to fix things or figure things out on our own terms. Not the wor...

I have enough fucking misery in my personal life. I dont need anyone more distractions from other parties. I walked away from them for a reason. I don't do angry or revenge for a reason. I'm busy taking care of things that need to be done while I am not entirely happy on a daily basis. All my life is all it has ever been is moments. Zero for anything else. The fact that someone took advantage of me in a moment where I wanted out of situation that just annoyed the fuck out of me and was ending anyways is irrelevant. I saw the writing on the wall and how much of a black hole your life was and how much you wanted to drag me into it. I divorced myself from tbe situation. Never forget I know you fucked over one of my oldest freinds from my old neighborhood. There are other reasons other than the obvious that you are forgotten. You just dont exist to me. Unless you make it a reality that you want to be existant.  Its probaly not in your best interests.